Princeton alum Susan Patton advises: Find a husband before graduating
A divorced mother’s advice for the current generation of Princeton students strikes the wrong kind of chord for many. Susan Patton, a Princeton alumna, is advising female students to work on snagging a husband, as well as a degree during their time at the university.
At Georgetown University Monday, student tour guides talked a lot about finding good housing, not about finding a good husband – but that’s what women on campus should be looking for, Patton says.
Patton, who is a member of the class of 1977, is telling female students: “Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate,” ABC News reported. Patton’s advice came in an open letter to the Daily Princetonian.
Patton was one of the first women to graduate from the Ivy League School, which her son currently attends.
“If the women’s movement has done what it has supposed to do, it should enable all women to make whatever choices are appropriate for them, even if their choices are seemingly retrogressive,” Patton said, according to ABC News.
And that biological clock? Patton says college women have a “shorter shelf life” than men.
“I think it’s important to be independent and just to follow your own path,” says Colby Newson, a prospective Georgetown student.
“I think as long as you have a good sense of who you are and maybe some goals in life, then eventually that’s going to come along,” says her mother, Ruth Newson.
“No, that’s not one of the top things at all,” says Jen Slogar, a prospective student.
Instead of looking for a husband, Slogar says she is looking for a college with many options for majors and where she can get a good degree.
“I’m trying to broaden my daughters’ perspective,” says her father, Boris Slogar. "I want them to be independent, I want to get an education and make a decision for themselves.”
Would campus men be angered by being targeted by women? Tomas Gomez says it wouldn’t scare him off, but says there’s plenty of time.
“At Georgetown we have a good collection of guys, but I don’t really think you have to find your life partner in college,” he says.
So if not in college, where will Georgetown women meet their mates? A recent paper from Princeton University found that while couples in the past typically met through family, school or work, more recently married couples commonly met through friends or online.