Education can help considerably in preventing and dealing with the consequences of cyberbullying.
The first place to begin an education campaign is with the kids and teens themselves. We need to address ways they can become inadvertent cyberbullies, how to be accountable for their actions and not to stand by and allow bullying (in any form) to be acceptable.
We need to teach them not to ignore the pain of others. Educating kids about the consequences (losing their ISP or IM accounts) helps. Teaching them to respect others and to take a stand against bullying of all kinds helps too.
Because their motives differ, the solutions and responses to each type of cyberbullying incident have to differ too. Unfortunately, there is no ?one size fits all? when cyberbullying is concerned.
Only two of the types of cyberbullies have something in common with the traditional schoolyard bully. Experts who understand schoolyard bullying often misunderstand cyberbullying, thinking it is just another method of bullying. But the motives and the nature of cybercommunications, as well as the demographic and profile of a cyberbully differ from their offline counterpart.
If we can help kids understand how much bullying hurts, how in many cases (unlike the children's chant) words can hurt you, fewer may cooperate with the cyberbullies.
They will think twice before forwarding a hurtful e?mail, or visiting a cyberbullying "vote for the fat girl" site, or allowing others to take videos or cell phone pictures of personal moments or compromising poses of others. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said that in the end we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.
We need to teach our children not to stand silently by while others are being tormented. While it is crucial that we teach them not to take matters into their own hands (and perhaps become a ?vengeful angel? cyberbully themselves) they need to come to us.
And if we expect them to trust us, we need to be worthy of that trust.
In addition to not lending their efforts to continue the cyberbullying, if given an anonymous method of reporting cyberbullying Web sites, profiles and campaigns, kids can help put an end to cyberbullying entirely.
School administration, community groups and even school policing staff can receive these anonymous tips and take action quickly when necessary to shut down the site, profile or stop the cyberbullying itself.
They can even let others know that they won't allow cyberbullying, supporting the victim, making it clear that they won't be used to torment others and that they care about the feelings of others is key.
We need to teach our children that silence, when others are being hurt, is not acceptable. If they don't allow the cyberbullies to use them to embarrass or torment others, cyberbullying will quickly stop.
It's a tall task, but a noble goal. And in the end, our children will be safer online and offline. We will have helped create a generation of good cybercitizens, controlling the technology instead of being controlled by it.
For more information on cyberbullying and its prevention, visit www.stopcyberbullying.org.